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- Anything more than Nothing is Something
- The Freedom of Restraint
- Words on the Way
- Ready Fire Aim
- Difference makes a Difference
- The Problem with Love
- What is Therapy?
- Be Your Destiny's Parent
- Change yourself because
- Life is Hard
- Turn Failure into Success
- Lessons from a Dog #231
- The Disappointment of Personal Development
- Change Who You Are
- Create the Right Time for Change
- Bitter Sweet Mindfulness
- Exploring the Shadows
- Are you holding on or letting go?
- I'm Sixty is it all over?
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- The Astronomer
- Managing Grief at Christmas
- World Kindness Day
- Mind Over Fertility
- Exploring metaphors to help break the cycle of OCD
- A Hearing Loss Journey
- Altruistic August
- Navigating Social Anxiety on Friendship Day
- Unlocking Healing for PTSD
- Moving Towards Mental Wellness
- Unveiling the Impact of Micro-Stresses on Our Lives
- How Cognitive Hypnotherapy & Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) can assist those Dyslexic Individuals with Low Self Esteem and Confidence
- Time to Talk Day 2024
- Turn Ambition to Achievement
- International Men's Day
- Kindness: It’s contagious. Be a super spreader!
- Looking After Yourself When Your Child Is Struggling - Self-Care for Parents
- Refugee Week
- The Benefits of Volunteering
- World Laughter Day - 7th May
- Screen-Free Week, 1st – 7th May 2023
- World Smile Day
- How we can become the best dad we can be whilst maintaining our mental health?
- Kindness is a Superpower
- Coming together despite driving us apart - Therapeutic reflections from teaching during the pandemic
- Grief and Bereavement
- Love is Love
- Men's Mental Health
- Freeing the child within
- Learned Helplessness
- How Strengthening your FOUNDATION can change your life
- Scaffolding
- It’s Time to Talk – How to get men talking about mental health problems?
- Achieving Freedom
- Your Own Natural Pace
- Can't Shan't Won't
- Running - an uphill battle
- Is your Librarian Stressed?
- Why Smiling is Good for You
- You can choose your friends
- Labels
- Create the Headspace
- Change your Thoughts, Change your Reality
- Belief Triangles
- Are your Red Boxes past their sell by date?
- All you need is Love
- The Spin Cycle of Everyday Life
- Tales of the Unexpected
- Problems come from your past, not your present
- Mind Travel
- Don't Kill your Dragons
- I'm OK are you OK?
- Cannabis: Addiction or Dependence?
- Don't fear change, change your fear
- How to be Certain about Uncertainty
- The Search for Something Bigger
- What have the Romans ever done for us?
- Blueprints
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Personal Stories
- Personal Insights into a Breast Cancer Journey
- We are all fellow strugglers
- How I healed my OCD
- Work in Process
- Talking for Ted
- Facing your Fears
- The Magic Happens outside the Comfort Zone
- Nearly always look on the Bright Side of Life
- Vision Quest
- On New Year's Day I realised my worst fear
- Embrace your Space
- Tree Uprooted
- Why Cognitive Hypnotherapy?
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Random Acts of Kindness
- Chaos, Kindness and Satchmo
- You can't get on with everyone..
- Freeze, fight or flight! - choosing an Act of Kindness
- A Friend in Need
- Random Acts of Therapy
- No Time to be Kind?
- Stressing the Kindness
- Can one person make a difference?
- Should Kindness be one of your 5 a day?
- Tame your Teenager with Kindness
- To be Kind or not to be Kind
- What has Honesty got to do with Kindness?
- The Power of Compassionate Listening
- Unexpected Kindness
- How to be Kind at Christmas
- Be Kind - a Revolution in Mental Health
- What IS a Random Act of Kindness?
- Jelly Fishing
- Twelve Random Acts of Kindness
- All the Lonely People
- Oh No Here comes Christmas!
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- How Quest Cognitive Hypnotherapy helped me regrow my hair after total alopecia…
- The Agony and Indecision of Reaching the Make-or-Break Stage in a Relationship
- The 3 Reasons Why Relationships Breakdown at Christmas
- Menopause Awareness Month
- Gambling Your Life Away: How to Overcome Issues with Excessive Gambling
- Therapy and Autoimmune Disease
- Alcohol Awareness Week
- Cancer is as Much an Emotional Journey as it is a Physical One
- Dry January
- How I healed my OCD
- Sports Hypnosis
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- The Stress Factor
- Thinking Slimmer
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- Student Case Study – A Blood Phobia
- Time Travel to Success - a case study
- The Rejection Advantage
- Limited Loop of Beliefs
- Do you need to be liked?
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- What Can I Do About Suicide
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- What is resilience, and why do we need it?
- 100 Happy Days
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Turn Ambition to Achievement
Russell Davis is a compassionate, intuitive and highly effective coach who can help lift the fog that clouds people’s life and masks their true potential. Russell helps people who feel uninspired, lack direction or are playing small in any part of their life (be it business or personal). His depth of training, lived experience and insightful nature helps people to find clarity and purpose and make the changes they want in their life. He works with Olympians, CEOs, couples struggling to get pregnant, uninspired housewives to Hollywood actors.
If you are willing to put the work in, Russell is willing to pour his heart, soul and expertise into helping you on your journey of personal and/or business fulfilment and growth.
www.russell-davis.com.
Turn Ambition to Achievement
So, how are the New Year’s Resolutions going? I am hoping you decided to go for an unrealistic goal for the year instead of short term resolutions however either way how is your motivation level? Your enthusiasm for what sounded like a great idea at the end of last year might be flagging.
Often we motivate ourselves and others through external consequences, either a carrot or a stick for example ‘If I can drop another dress size I will buy a new outfit’. I can still clearly remember teachers saying ‘if you don’t be quiet I’ll have you all in detention’. This is known as extrinsic motivation, it is subject to an external factor – whether reward or punishment.
Research has shown that the most effective way to motivate people is through intrinsic motivation, utilising motivation we have within us. The elements of intrinsic motivation include novelty, challenges,extend & increase capabilities, explore, learn, autonomy and purpose.
How could you utilise these principles into what you are wanting to achieve this year? There was a period in my running where I was struggling to find a time to run with a toddler in our lives. We got into a routine with me running pushing him in the pushchair with the dog tied round my waist (talk about multi-tasking!). However I was struggling to find the motivation and our son was getting older and less tolerant of being strapped in a buggy for 45 mins only to find himself back at home having been to the park and not had an opportunity to play!
Re-evaluating my running using the principles of intrinsic motivation I reminded myself of my purpose of going for a run, which is to get fit and there are many ways to do that. I decided to say ‘yes’ more often to my son’s requests to stop and explore/play which would increase his enjoyment of the experience. Whilst he was playing I could explore other exercises (such squat thrusts, press-ups, lateral jumps, sprints) that would add novelty to what had become a rather repetitive and predictable running routine. I quickly found these new exercises were using muscles I don’t normally flex, making them quite a challenge! I also found because I was doing a wider range of exercises my overall fitness increased, quickly increasing my capabilities. So my purpose was still being met but I was having more fun and so was my son!
As a result my motivation for going for a run/exercise increased dramatically, no longer thinking ‘I’ll go tomorrow‘ and now looking forward to the new and novel challenges it brings.
- What is the purpose of any goals you have for this year?
- How can you add more novelty to what you are doing? Have you got stuck into a predictable routine of action?
- How can you make it more challenging? Perhaps you could review what you are wanting to achieve?
- Is there something new you can learn which will assist you in your purpose? (e.g. asking a trainer to teach you some new exercises/machines in the gym)
You can find Russell and other QCH therapists using the therapist finder https://www.qchpa.com/therapist-finder/#!directory/map/ord=rnd